“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” – James 5:16


Have you been praying for something for a while now and feel like God is not answering?

I have been there, many times. I’ve had to learn to trust in Him even when the things I pray for aren’t being granted to me, yet.
I’ve learned to understand that God knows exactly what and who I need, when and how I need it. Sometimes He needs to say no to some of our prayers because He has greater things in mind for us. Maybe He didn’t let things work out with that last guy you met because it would’ve taken off your focus from the right man He is eager to introduce you to. Maybe if He listened to and granted all of our prayers, we would be led into a bigger mess than we already are in.

“Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.” You may think you know what you need, but sometimes we are led to pray through our feelings and emotions, and not through the Spirit. I’ve learned to understand between an effectual and fervent prayer and a prayer from the flesh. We pray for things we FEEL are good for us NOW, while God knows that they wouldn’t be good for us in the long term. See, God sees the greater picture; The past, the present, and the future. He can already foresee all of our days to come, and He knows that if He’d let us have our way all the time, we would end up lost and discouraged, in bad company, away from Jesus, and buried deep into the things of the world.

I have to admit that there have been times when I’ve felt forgotten by God. All of my life, I’ve had one prayer be the same one.
“Lord, please let me find true love. I want to fall in love with a man who loves me back.” And here I am, still single as can be. I’ve relied on things of the world at times to distract myself while I wait for God to answer my prayer. Doesn’t that sound silly? Probably because it was. Where was my Faith, if I had to rely on things of the world to pass the time? There was one year where i dated like 6 guys back to back, never spending a minute alone, because I was so afraid of being lonely. Then last year I realized that I couldn’t keep doing that anymore, and decided to remain entirely single until I met a man who made me change my mind completely, a man who could show me God’s love in person, a man who would make it all worth it. And here I am, still single. There is a huge difference now though. My prayer has changed from, “Lord, please let me find true love. I want to fall in love with a man who loves me back.” to :

“Lord, thank You for loving me more than anyone could ever love me. You know all of my heart’s desires, You know all of my fears, You know how much I yearn to be loved by a man who loves You first and me second. I pray that You keep molding me into the person that I am meant to become, and that if a Godly marriage is in Your plan for me, I trust that You will guide him to me in Your perfect timing. In the meantime, I will keep my eyes fixed on You, until one day I can share You with the man that You’ve so lovingly prepared for me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.”

I feel such a big difference in today’s prayer compared to last year’s. Thank You, Lord, for helping me mature in faith, and for letting me rest in knowing that You are in control, every second of every day. Thank You for reassuring me that You have great things in store for me, even when at times it seems like nothing is going my way. I go back to,

“… For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:8-9


So if you’re feeling a little discouraged today, know that sometimes God’s no is really a ‘Not yet’. So let’s never stop praying in Faith, through the Spirit, even if, at times, we feel like giving up. God is teaching us to trust in Him. God is teaching us Faith. God is teaching us patience and endurance.
So while we wait for Him to answer in His own way and in His own timing, let’s keep building each other up, spreading His hope with others, getting to know God more, meditating on the Word, spending crazy time with Him, falling deeply in love with Jesus, and becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Thanks to everyone who reads my blog. I pray you are encouraged. 🙂 Be blessed.



4 thoughts on ““The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” – James 5:16

  1. I can totally relate to your post. I have been praying for my future wife since I was 17 years old. Like you, many times I have felt like my prayer has not been answered. It is specially hard to be able to leave my emotional life in the hands of God when most of my friends (about 90%) are either married or married with children.

    Through the years my prayer regarding this topic has evolved from,”Lord prepare my future wife for marriage”, to “Lord Please help me meet a Proverbs 31 woman”, to “Lord please take care of my future wife wherever she might be” to “Lord where is she???? I am getting old, I need to get married and have some babies soon!”

    At the end of 2013 something interesting happened to me. I have never been much for New Year’s resolutions. I’d rather just concentrate on achieving specific goals for the year emphasized on God’s guidance in my life. Around the middle of December (2013) the Lord told me that he would reveal my future wife to me in 2014. Now this is something that had never happened before. By that I mean God had never told me “Listen son, I will reveal your future helpmeet next year”. Then a close pastor friend of mine, ok it was my dad said to me, “Enrique, pray that the Lord reveal your future wife to you.” A few months later, I was watching a sermon and the title was “The Revelation of God”. Wow! God was trying to tell me something.

    For many years I have felt lonely. If you only knew how many nights I have cried. Many times I have sunk deep down in despair. Recently, God showed me that He hears our prayers and sees our tears (2 Kings 20:5). Amen for that! What a great God we have. He cares. He really does.

    I few years back I learned that in order for God to answer me in the specific I needed to pray with specificity. From then on I said Lord this is what I desire in a future wife: a woman of God (Proverbs 31 woman), a woman who will love you more than anything else in the world including me, a woman who will have the calling to serve, a woman with the calling to be a pastor’s wife, a woman who will love and respect me as her husband, a woman that will honor you, a woman that loves and wants children, a woman that can cook, a Godly woman who will not indulge in worldly or secular lust, a Latina woman (preferably Honduran), ages 25-29, with a college education, who can speak english, and has a heart for ministry and helping others, a woman with a passion for the poor and social justice. That has been my prayer lately. Do I struggle with this prayer? Yes of course. There are times that I get frustrated with God. I ask God, “Why is it taking forever?” ,”Why does there have to so much heartbreak?” Come on God, did you forget I am your servant, your minister, a pastor??? What about me and my life? What about my wife?”

    What God has taught me is that my time is not HIS time. His time is perfect. At times I have felt that God has been too early or too late, but He keeps reminding me that His watch is well adjusted. He has made EVERYTHING beautiful in HIS time (Ecclesiastes 3:11).

    God reminds me of his promise to keep Him first ALWAYS (Matthew 6:33). It is so easy to get carried aways by the coveting of other people’s relationships while neglecting God’s true love for us and his perfect plan. I try to remind myself that HE shall concede the desires of your heart according to my will(Psalm 37:4).

    There was a time where a friend said to me listen all you need to do is pray and have faith and God will let your future wife fall down from heaven into your lap. Oh if It was only that easy there would not be so many people seeking love. Instead God took me to Proverbs 18:22. God taught me that Yes, prayer, with faith and a healthy search attitude will get me there. Yes, He who “findeth” In order to find a man has to search, browse, look. He has to “pursue” a woman. Thank you Lord, for your Word is complete and a light on to my path.

    All I can do is continue to pray, seek and rely on God’s providence that he will REVEAL and deliver his anointed woman in His time to me. Amen.

    • Nreekay,

      Thank you for your comment.

      I am amazed at your words. I have a question.. How did you find my blog?

      I see you said you’ve been praying for a Honduran woman specifically? It’s crazy because i am from Honduras. Anyway, thanks again for your comment and i pray that God blesses you and grants all the desires of your heart according to His will.

      Keep on keeping on and never cease to pray!

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